And a Life I Have...
Life is good here... my Ex is finally paying his child support as directed by the courts... now if only his employer would keep up sending it in!
Three strikes and you're out....
Well, it's been TWO days now... yep... working on contempt figures for my attorney... You would think that my ex would just try to do the right thing and neither one of us would have to go thru all of this!! I have had to go thru firgures for the last 18 months (since the agreement was retroactive back to when it was signed)... Much has changed during that time, so I have had to find starting and stopping dates of debts, etc...
Life... we just keep going! It's a vicious cycle that some people never change til the day they die... For the record- I DO NOT want to be labeled as one of those people!! What are the important things in your life?? Do you actually spend anytime doing them?? Seeing those people?? Or do you just keep waiting til you get ENOUGH TIME??
I say ............... and you think ............... ?
It's been a long, long time coming but when my attorney looked at me and smiled and said "You're Divorced"... those were the two sweetest words that I thought I would ever hear!!
I got what I went in there after- even though he was whining (and showed up without an attorney I might add) about he needed MORE TIME... geez, it's been almost 15 months... more time for WHAT??- I walked outta that courtroom with the agreement standing and my divorce final...
There have been a lot of smiles in my life since that moment... I'm happier... my boys are happier... my family is definitely happier... my friends are ecstatic...
His family will try to help him get the money to fight and amend the agreement thru court but now the shoe is on the other foot... Let them support him long enough for him to spend thousands and thousands of dollars on an attorney and court costs until someone finally tells him that the only thing that can be amended now according to income is the child support!!
And in the mean time - I can go on with my life!!
... of a moment, it was all here and done!
Mmmmmmm...........
I have never been one to play on someone else's bad news or times. It just doesn't seem like the thing that a decent person, brought up in a good family would do BUT....
I have to share with you guys how my Monday went ...
Fun little survey..... FUN!
"He didn't really wanna talk to me". And the phone gets slammed down... What do you mean, baby?? "He seemed so FAKE, mom".
I sooooo totally love you guys.... mom and dad.... I hope when I grow up that I'm just like you!
Ever had it?? That toss and turn your body every whicha way to try to get comfortable so you can sleep syndrome?
The Keys to Your Heart |
You are attracted to those who have a split personality - cold as ice on the outside but hot as fire in the heart. |
In love, you feel the most alive when things are straight-forward, and you're told that you're loved. |
You'd like to your lover to think you are loyal and faithful... that you'll never change. |
You would be forced to break up with someone who was emotional, moody, and difficult to please. |
Your ideal relationship is lasting. You want a relationship that looks to the future... one you can grow with. |
Your risk of cheating is zero. You care about society and morality. You would never break a commitment. |
You think of marriage as something precious. You'll treasure marriage and treat it as sacred. |
In this moment, you think of love as commitment. Love only works when both people are totally devoted. |
Maybe I think about things too hard sometimes... Some people I know would definitely tell ya that I do... or so I would imagine that they would.
You would think that by now everything would be ironed out as far as the divorce... I mean it's been almost a year... Sometimes I think that maybe I'm just getting started... That sentence within itself brings mixed emotions!
Today's post is simple and sweet...
So what does it mean to 'Find yourself ' ??
I had never really thought about that phrase... until recently... finding myself headed for a divorce after over 20 years with the same man I began to understand the depth of those two simple words...
The meaning that they took on over the next few months was by no description 'simple'... I have made some very crucial discoveries about myself and my life...
Here are just a few:
These are only a few of the things that I have learned over the last 7 months... and it is part of the slow process to 'finding myself '...
Make sure you smile today just for me!
Hugs,
Bonnie_W.